should read: “for the record, the opposite situation does occur **rarely**.

there. fixed that for ya. BTW, apropos of nothing, when your friend has to write out that child-support check to the ex, does she do so with a sense of pride and duty? or does she complain with such an outpouring of bile and rage that nearby paint peels off the wall? wait wait, don’t tell me….let me guess…

As devestated as my friend was, the judge was right. Kids went right into daycare on base and my friend got a job and started to pay child support. Admittedly, her child support isn’t all that much, but she’s putting herself through community college at night so it’s a lot to her.

I realize my friend kinda made her bed through some of the choices she made, but just saying, it does happen the other way.

As for the original comment, it rubbed me the wrong way as well. All the condition seems to mean is that the partners have to use condoms and the woman can’t give oral sex or at least can’t swallow.

I get that the condoms are somewhat suboptimal for both parties, but as far as the oral sex goes, I know plenty of woman who do it all the time for men who refuse to do it for them.

And frankly, at least “I have an allergy” IS an excuse. Most men simply say “I don’t wanna” and don’t provide an excuse at all. And trust me, guys don’t taste wonderful either.

CC
who knows of a guy who says “I can’t give oral sex, it would aggravate my acid reflux.” Tell me that’s any different.

just as an example of this acumen: they signed ‘godzirra’ matsui awhile back, and have paid him $52,000,000 for (essentially) mediocre numbers, until he went nuts in game 6. not a great deal, right? wrong, maybe. the article i read – sorry, too lazy to do hyperlinks – says that once they signed matsui, they hustled up business and endorsements, etc. from japanese companies both in NY and japan, that brought them in an extra $20 million a year. they paid him way too much, and they *made money* off the guy.

i rather suspect that’s not accidental. of course, it’s all made possible by that incredibly lucrative one-of-a-kind cable franchise, so it ain’t exactly “fair”…..but what is? caesar’s palace spent some $150,000,000 **up front** to secure that celine dion 5-year-deal of awhile back. playing with the calculator one day, i reckoned that over that 5 years, they made $100 million + PROFIT on the deal. takes money to make money, true. but it also takes brains and balls.

Not to belabor the point, but this most recent Yankee world championship took nine years and was purchased at an aggregate salary cost of approximately $1.8 billion.

How’s that for return on investment! Sheesh!

But, in a way, it is reminiscent of the line from Citizen Kane: “We lost $1 million last year, $1 million this year. I fully expect to lose another $1 million next year. You know, at that rate, we’ll go out of business in sixty years….”

You’re right, money is meaningless to the Yankee franchise.

What about MEN who are stuck in bad marriages? Or are you saying this only happens to women? Men tend to stay in bad marriages because they fear what will happen in a divorce. Women do not fear divorce unless they are old and childless.

I was present and caring for him more then than she is now that she actually has to have a job. If you go by that as a guide, then elementary and daycare should have custody.

still, *nothing* beats the bitterness, hatred, and vitriol generated by a successful woman having to pay alimony to an ex who gamed the system that was designed to make sure *she* wins. whenever that happens, a bell rings somewhere, and an angel earns his wings.

For the first 13 years of her life I raised my youngest daughter without no child support. I asked the court but the judge told my attorny “off the record” that if he forced to order the mother to pay child support he would order monthly visitation across country 100% at my expense to give the money back to her.

The judge then ordered me to pay for visitation 100% (airfare cross country), including paying her mother $100 to pick her up at the airport each time. This was twice a year.

So for 13 years I bore 100% of child expenses and the mothers visitation with 0 support.

Fast forward to now, and the same court is ordering me to pay the mother over 30% of my gross monthly income to that same mother now that our daughter is with her, and any visitation is still at my expense 100%.

There’s justice for men in America for you.

You so could. Throw in an occasional choice tidbit from Philly, NY, DC and the more repugnant parts of the south- of which there are many- and you got a full plate.

BTW, Maricopa county can be best summed up by this convo

“So what’s Tempe like?”
“Oh its the center of the Universe.”
“What’s there?”
“Nothing.”

Basically, during the divorce proceedings, his mom accused his dad of molesting the kids. Without any prior complaints on his record or investigation into the accusation (not even to the point of asking the kids; everything was kept from them) the courts decided that he couldn’t see his kids anymore. He didn’t see them for five years until somehow or another, someone at the court started to realize that the accusations were complete shit (can’t really remember how this happened, but his dad was certainly one of the lucky ones). Even after my friend’s dad was allowed to see the kids again, my friend (as the oldest and as a male, I guess) was required by the courts to be present whenever his father was with his sisters. He didn’t understand why until years later. During the five years they were under custody of the mother, she would routinely leave them alone, sometimes for weeks at a time; as a 14-year-old my friend had to take care of his two sisters with nothing but the money he earned from his part-time pool job. He thought she was screwing her divorce lawyer but he wasn’t sure.

His dad eventually regained custody and was even awarded the child-support he’d given over the years back from the mother (since she didn’t spend any of it on the kids) but he still hasn’t gotten it from her. I don’t think he’s pursuing it.

Obviously this is only one story and I’m sure there are multitudes of horror-stories from women who’ve been fucked over one way or another, but this story has bothered me ever since I heard it because of the way his dad was literally punished for a crime he didn’t commit, without ever receiving any kind of due process of law, not even an investigation, much less a trial.

Facts – meaning, evidence to support your position. You might not have gotten custody if you’d challenged it, as you’ve all but conceded you were not the primary caretaker and would not have been most available to spend time with your child(ren). But where’s the evidence of bias?

Aren’t you supposed to listen to your lawyers? I even went for a second opinion.

And impervious to just what facts exactly?

Nobody disputes that you took the “pragmatic approach,” but your cost-benefit analysis is undoubtedly skewed by the fact that you have feelings about things that cannot be substantiated by any evidence presented. You pretend to have been victimized by a system, but you agreed to everything. Obviously, you believe things would have been worse if you had contested, but the evidence for your claim is nonexistant. It’s a matter of belief that’s impervious to fact.

Memphis officials accidentally tear down the wrong house. Of course, the city insists that all of the proper “procedures were followed.”

Color me unsurprised.

Memphis city council member Myron Lowery says “Paying for a $29,000 house is a big hit that never should have happened. Someone made a mistake and they should be disciplined for it.”

Nobody will be. As an elected government official you should realize that by now.

If I had married a woman like you, I probably would feel a lot different about women.

Anyway, I’ve never figured out why so many men and women on the internet think marriage favors women while feminists think it favors men. It has favored men historically, but I have no idea about today. More women seem to care about/want marriage, but women want a lot of things that aren’t the best for them.

Being married to a guy who likes so many of the same things I do (including Frank Zappa) and is the best roommate ever, I have no dogs in any fight.

One other thing, in less than 3 yrs, my son will have some legal standing in deciding where he wants to live. Lets see how she handles a teenage son with the power to take away her child support money and actually make her have to pay some.

You didn’t even fight it, so you have nothing to complain about. What can I tell ya?