I don’t know. Maybe because it’s a pleasant Sunday morning, maybe because the temperatures are finally bearable today after a miserable month of weather, maybe simply because I thought that was a really neat little clip… Whatever it is, I’m struck by how trite and tiresome this sort of reflexive insto-cynicism is starting to seem to me:
“I’ve got $20 that says that guys never been laid in his life.”
It’s just such an insipid reaction to something that’s otherwise so pleasant and harmless. I don’t mean to make too much of some random throwaway comment on some random web thread. But it’s a little symbol of a particular brand of incivility that seems to permeate so much of the modern conversation (and one of which I’ve certainly been guilty myself).
“Bet he’s never been laid,” as the instinctive response to a warm, good-natured little video like that… I don’t know. I guess it would be nice if that sort of foul cynicism starts to feel clunky and passe here soon…
I enjoyed that tremendously, and felt that it should be shared with as many people as I can share it with. It’s just sad that some people can’t enjoy the talent and ability of others without denigrating them to presumably make themselves feel better.
Radley, I really appreciate that you link to things like this, like your Five-Star Fridays (even if the music’s not usually my cup of tea), like the other fun things you link to. It brings wonderful balance to your blog, especially with the sheer awfulness of some of the things you link to: the injustices, the diminishment of humanity, the things we don’t ever want to see or hear about, but NEED to be aware of to protect ourselves and push back.
Thanks for everything.
the friendly grizzly |
March 2nd, 2008 at 5:29 pm
Thanks, Radley. And as for the drive-by comments, they hit me as a cross between the type who drags a key down the side of a nice new car, and those who take the joy or fun of anything and grind it under their heel until you were sad. Nothing more than a form of vandalism.
In my own way, I think that’s what I said. I never said “thanks for wasting my time” or suggest that you shouldn’t have posted it, It is your blog after all. If people can’t take a little sarcasm maybe they’re just looking a little too hard for something to find offensive?
CK the only one with a sense of humor today? C’mon, the amount of time it took to perfect that kind of shadow puppetry you have to know the guys never been on a date. I must have hit a little close to home for JeffT.
I think I already made my point, and pretty clearly at that. It’s not about lacking a sense of humor, or “hitting close to home,” or looking for something to be offended by.
It’s about being weary of pointless cynicism. I didn’t find your post “offensive.” I found it to be representative of a breezy nihilism that I’m realizing has become very tiresome to me. If nothing else, it’s starting to feel dated — like some ’90s cultural mien that has just sort of worn out its welcome.
Flippant-for-the-sake-of-flippant is starting to feel a lot less clever and funny, and a lot more lame and boring. And intrusive, really.
As a response to that particular video, the whole not-getting-laid thing was a massive non sequitur. It just emerged, unprompted, out of nowhere. People who are regularly getting laid generally don’t go around analyzing the world through the lens of not-getting-laid. In other words, you might want to be careful about what you appear to be projecting.